What does a boomer woman do on her first date in 20 years?
Filed under: Boomer Women, Lifestyle, Lifestyle Transitions
Yesterday I was talking to a friend who is single and is preparing for her first date in 20 years! She’s so excited!
As a boomer woman she has spent the past twenty years being an entrepreneur and helping with the grandchildren. When I asked her “why haven’t you been on a date”? She said, “I just haven’t had the time”. She’s very powerful and confident in her business but needs a confidence boost for this date.
I need your help. She’s asked me what to do on the first date and I’m about out of ideas! So let’s help her build her confidence for this date so she will have pleasant memories. The date is in two weeks and I’d really like to help her ease her anxiety by sharing your answers.
I’ve created a short survey and would appreciate your help in giving her some more answers. Please click here to complete the confidential survey.
Day 15 of 45 Day Challenge: Boomer Women Reclaim Your Confidence!
Filed under: Boomer Women, Lifestyle, Lifestyle Transitions
“Confidence doesn’t come out of nowhere. It’s a result of something… hours and days and weeks and years of constant work and dedication.”~~ Roger Steinbach
Confidence thinking allows you to control your thoughts. Your thoughts shape your reality. This is a skill that you can develop. Remember the time you walked into a room and all heads turned towards you, remember how great you felt and the way you put your shoulders back, head up, tummy in, ‘girls’ out (please don’t tell me about gravity) and strutted! Do you sometimes wonder what happened to the girl with all the confidence? When did you abdicate your ‘throne’ and begin to become invisible?
Even in the middle of planning and shopping for the holidays, you can still be confident. Even though times are different than most of us have ever known, you can still be confident. Boomer women more than ever MUST reclaim your right; you still have it in you! Decide right this moment to step back into your confidence. Words are magical. Speak it into existence.
Day 15 As you go through your day, pay attention to your thoughts. Are you speaking confidence or accepting whatever happens. Either way, you’re making a choice and creating your result.
“If you have no confidence in self, you are twice defeated in the race of life. With confidence, you have won even before you have started”~~Marcus Garvey
45 Day Challenge: Day 8-A Bear in the Community!
Every morning I enjoy walking around my neighborhood. Just the other day, returning from my walk, I opened an email from the Neighborhood Community Office that said “the bear is still in the community.” Now for me this was quite a shocker! How long has the bear been here, has the bear seen me walking and is it safe to walk? What would I do if I see the bear?
The first day after reading this email I didn’t go for my walk. All I could think about was the BEAR in the community and the what ifs. I spent the day going from front to back looking out the windows looking for the bear! This was not a comfortable feeling for me, I felt like a hostage in my own home.
The next day, I decided that I had walked before hearing about the bear and nothing happened so I would start walking again. I left out that morning with a great show of confidence, walking in the middle of the street, swinging my arms, and looking all around. I didn’t see the bear! All my fears were unfounded.
Making that decision gave me the freedom to continue with my life.
Day 8 How will you face the bear (fear) in your life today? What will you do to regain your freedom?
It’s Your Time Now!
If you’re at all like me, you’re finding crossroads and divergent paths everywhere you turn. Boomer women often find themselves at a crossroads. You’ve been running hither and yond for everyone else and neglected yourself. The nest is finally empty, you’re at the top in the workplace or you’re retired and yet you still feel as if something is missing. Get your sexy back, become the empowered person you know yourself to be. It’s time to find your sweet spot. You get to reinvent, redefine and empower yourself to create the life you desire for the rest of your life. The only thing left for you to do is get yourself started.
You can jump right in designing your life now with the three tips below or you can try them on one at a time to see how they fit. It’s entirely up to you; whatever you do, GET STARTED!
1. Be authentic. I know this sound like a no-brainer but, who are you really? You’re not JUST a single woman, or someone’s wife, or someone’s mother, or the boss! You’re so much more than ALL of that. Now is the time to ‘check in’ with yourself using meditation, reflection,coaching, journaling and soooo much more to get to your authentic self.
2. Genuinely listen. Listen to not only what is being said but also to what is unsaid. This takes practice, pay special attention to the unsaid. Tuning into your own thoughts as well as words and actions are keys to becoming the empowered person you desire to be. Listen with your heart and soul; don’t just hear what they’re saying. Listen because every word matters.
3. Be bold. If your closet has almost ALL black and white it’s time to add some color. Color will help you bring a new look to your outer as well as inner appearance. Use color to uplift your moods, declare your new independence and stride confidently into the life you’re now designing just for you. Laugh out loud! This does not mean forced laughter. It does mean finding humor in things (especially you). Don’t take yourself too seriously.
After all your intent is to be self-empowered designing and creating your life just the way you want it. Becoming the person you’ve always known yourself to be.
For more tips on designing the life you desire and deserve click here to grab your copy of the first 2 days of my life changing book Rejuvenate Your Life in 21 Days.
Has Your Comfort Zone Become Your Prison?
Has your comfort zone become your prison? Taking time to reflect on your life right now can give you the answer. Knowing yourself is the first step in bursting out of your prison. I know there are many schools of thought on this. One is to take baby steps, just put your toe over the zone and see how it feels. If it doesn’t feel good then go back to yourself imposed prison!
Fooey, I say, jump over the zone; take a giant leap, a leap so big that it’s impossible to go back. It’s not supposed to feel good; staying in the ‘feel good’ place has imprisoned you. The doors to that particular prison are closed to you forever!
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