Boomer Women: 10 Keys To Self-Empowerment
Have you ever met someone who is so naturally friendly that she never meets a stranger? She makes friends easily with almost everyone in no time. That type of person is called a people-person; she’s unbelievably nice and charismatic and can charm anyone into doing anything.
Her greatness as a socially-empowered person is because of the people that propel her to success. She earns the trust and all-out support of the people, whom she helped before. She never runs out of help, she’s always giving. She can do anything because there is no shortage of people behind her. All because she knows how to maximize her social potential!
Have you been so busy running hither and yond for everyone else that you’ve neglected yourself? Do you know your social skills and how to use them to reach self-empowerment? Self-empowerment makes a total change in your life turning you into a happier and more successful person. If you can be one of those people-persons, then there’s no reason why you won’t succeed.
Boomer women often find themselves at a crossroads. As women in the work place, you sometimes feel ‘pushed out’ by the younger women. Get your sexy back, become the empowered person you know yourself to be. If you’ve already left the work place, it’s time to find your sweet spot. You get to reinvent, redefine and empower yourself to create the life you desire for the rest of your life. The only thing left for you to do is get started.
1. Be authentic.
Pretending will ‘out’ you for the phony that you are and totally defeat your purpose. Be genuinely nice and interested in people. If they ever think that you are a hypocrite and self-centered, they will not support you. You will not reach the self-empowerment you desire.
2. Genuinely listen.
It is easier to earn the trust of people when you listen to their problems and empathize with them. Listen with your heart and soul; don’t just hear what they’re saying. Look the person in the eye when the person talks to you. Listen because every word matters. Be confidential, people love having a confidante.
3. Be bold.
Laugh out loud! This does not mean forced laughter. It does mean finding humor in things (especially you) and not being to serious. Don’t take yourself too seriously. When you exude an awesome sense of humor; people are automatically attracted to you. People enjoy being around happy people.
4. Value yourself.
While going from function to function remember to love yourself. Love and value yourself first. Know that you are worthy of respect and affection; this emanates and touches everyone you meet. People are attracted to you because they feel your vibes of self love.
5. Be kind always.
Random acts of kindness are appreciated whenever they are given from a genuine heart. These acts are not always about money. In fact, many little random acts of kindness matter most to many people. A random act of kindness can be as simple as “good morning” or giving someone a smile. There is no better time than now to do a random act of kindness.
6. Stay in touch with old friends.
Many friendships have fallen by the wayside because you think you’re too busy. Now with the advent of technology, you can stay in touch more easily. Whenever you think of someone, email, text or call them. Don’t wait until tomorrow because tomorrow never comes. Remember tomorrow is today!
7. Be a life long learner.
Are you a complainer and whiner? Going through life complaining and whining will make people FLEE from you! Get involved in personal development courses and/or a coach to help you eliminate those traits. Who do you think wants a whiner and complainer for a friend?
8. Be confident.
Walk confidently into any room with a winning smile, introduce yourself and be a ray of light. When people speak of you let them say “she lights up a room with her presence.”
9. Exercise control.
No one wants to be around a snappish, temper tantrum throwing adult. Take a few minutes before responding to stay calm and speak calmly. Take control of the situation and transform your anger into something positive and productive. Be the person that people can come to with problems and concerns knowing that you will always listen calmly and have a soothing answer. Make it easy for people to come to you.
10. Cultivate your relationships.
Too often we take our most meaningful relationships for granted. Our significant other becomes like “an old shoe”. Be careful to cultivate, nurture and show that you cherish your relationships. Develop a sense of camaraderie, a sense of play and support. Do things together. Create joy in each moment because your objective is to keep happiness and laughter close to you and yours.
After all your intent is to be self-empowered by becoming a better and more lovable person, being gracious and charismatic are tools you can use to ensure your success.
Becoming a more loveable person ensures your self-empowerment because you’re empowering others. The more people who feel you’re trustworthy; a win-win for all.
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3 Marketing Lessons I Learned From A Sand Hill Crane
Sand Hill Crane
While walking this morning a Sand Hill Crane flew overhead squawking. I thought that it must have been a flock because of the racket. To my surprise it was a single bird. This is very unusual because they usually travel in pairs or a flock.
Turning the corner, I could hear squawking to my right and then squawking to my left. In total wonder I listened and realized the squawking was a method of communication. The bird on my right would speak (I surmised) “I’m over here” and the bird on my left would reply “I’m coming”.
The bird that flew overhead had landed in a field; the other bird was in a backyard. As the bird from the back yard approached the bird in the field he stopped about 30 ft away. The bird in the field spoke and lifted her feathers. This was a signal to the other bird that she was friendly. The backyard bird immediately sang, lifted his feathers, jumped, turned in a circle and bowed! This was the most amazing display I’ve ever seen up close and personal!
As I continued my walk, I started wondering “How am I getting heard and am I making enough noise in the right place?” The Sand Hill Crane knew what she wanted and made lots of noise in the right place. She knew that the other bird was in the backyard.
The other piece to this is “am I making known what I want?” The Sand Hill Crane ruffled her feathers, just ever so slightly, to convey the message of what she wanted. How do I ruffle my feathers, is my message clear?
The three lessons I learned this morning from a Sand Hill Crane are:
- Get started early on your plan. It was just 6:30 when I saw the crane this morning. You’ve heard the saying “the early bird gets the worm.” This bird was early and the “worm” is whatever you’re going after.
- Make lots of noise. She made such a racket flying overhead that I HAD to look up. Not only did I look up, I took notice of where she was going. You want to get noticed, be bold.
- Know your target market. The bird knew he was in the back yard so she landed close to him in a field. Go directly to your market, and speak to them in their language.
How are you ruffling your feathers and what kind of noise are you making?
Tags: change, Goals, marketing
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What Would You Do?
This weekend I met a most delightful woman. She is happy, living life boldly and totally living in the moment. While we were talking she shared that life had not been a “crystal stair”. She’d had many challenges, the most recent was being downsized from a job she loved. She was in management and ran the department of 35 employees. That had been her dream.
Once she was downsized, she looked for work in her industry. Finding none, she decided to look in other places. She’s a boomer and understood that she might have some challenges in replacing her income. Wisely, she decided to take whatever came first.
She was offered a job as a waitress in a diner. She didn’t look at this offer as “beneath’ her but accepted the job and decided to enjoy every minute of it. After working for the diner for about six months, a very handsome young gentleman was placed at one of her tables. He couldn’t help but notice how engaging she was and how happiness seemed to radiate from her.
The gentleman engaged her in conversation, upon learning of her skills, he identified himself. This gentleman is an entrepreneur with many businesses and was looking for someone with her skills. He offered her the job, she accepted and has been working with him for 2 years. She says “this is the happiest I have ever been.”
While I listened to her story I thought about another friend who is out of work and claims that he can only do one thing,. This friend has been out of work for 3 years but refuses to consider doing any work that is not in management or does not require wearing a suit!
The contrast in the way my friends think is not unique. Some people always look for the silver lining and others always see the clouds. It’s entirely up to you how you view your world.
Many times our greatest challenge contains the seeds of our greatest opportunity. The opportunity only presents itself after we have gone through the challenge. The first friend saw her downsizing as a challenge and was given a chance even greater than the job from which she was downsized.
The second friend is still wallowing around in the challenge; paralyzed into thinking that he cannot do anything other than what he had done.
Which thinker are you? Do you see adversity and challenges as a new beginning or do you become paralyzed? The amazing thing is, you can choose! Whatever choice you make, be willing to accept the consequences.
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Spring Has Sprung and Winter Snatched It Back!
Awakening this morning to less than 40 degree weather was not my idea of spring. Especially since I’ve enjoyed mid to upper 70′s over the last couple of weeks! I’ve relished teasing my family and friends about being out on the porch sipping my coffee in spring like weather. I haven’t called anyone today!
Just last Saturday, thinking that winter was over, I packed away my winter clothes. Of course, this morning found me in the garage, rummaging through boxes, pulling out my thickest sweats! This cold morning reminded me of how starting on a goal is similar to the promise of spring. You’re so excited, you move with fluidity and grace. You’re practically “running over yourself” with joy.
You start out with gusto, vim and vigor. This is what you want and no one can stop you. Ahhh, something (winter) comes along and snatches you back to your old way of being. The effort to continue on the goal is just too great. It’s taking a lot longer that you thought.
This is a clear signal that it’s time to reevaluate. You might ask yourself, “Is this something I really want or is it something others told me to want?” When you become lackluster in your approach to achieving your goal it’s easy to blame someone or something for your failure. Could it be that you’re on a path to self sabotage?
Just as the grass turns green, the flowers slowly bloom and the sun feels delightful; slowly working on your goal with unshakable determination will reward you in a spectacular manner. You’ll feel the achievement of moving in the direction of your dreams, of creating the life you desire and living boldly.
Even if winter snatches you back; you always get the chance to restart.
What goal do you desire to restart today?
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